Both Hannah and Mary faced incredible oppression and ridicule given their situations. But Elkanah and Joseph bear that shame along their wives. Elkanah and Joseph must both transgress the boundaries of their culture. These men recognize the power vested in them, not power that is earned or deserved, it simply comes from being born a man in the world at the top of this gender hierarchy. And they divest themselves from it.
Feminism isn’t against men, it’s against sexism.